The Praise Equation: Specific + Timely + Frequent = Connection That Lasts (Part 2)

Timing Is Everything

Why When You Praise Matters Just as Much as How

Toddlers live in the moment. Their brains are still wiring connections between action and consequence, effort and affirmation. That’s why timing matters.

⚠️ The Pitfall: Delayed Praise

Even well-meaning praise loses power when it’s delayed. If you wait too long, the child may not connect the praise to the behavior. The moment passes—and so does the opportunity to reinforce it.

🔄 The Shift: Immediate Praise

PCIT emphasizes timely praise—delivered seconds after the behavior occurs. This helps toddlers link cause and effect while the experience is still fresh.

(child shares toy with parent) Thank you for sharing your blocks with me."

(tower crashes) “You stayed calm when your block tower fell.”

🧠 Why It Works

• Reinforces behavior while it’s still emotionally relevant

• Builds trust and responsiveness

• Keeps praise impactful and behavior-specific

🌱 The Reframe

Praise is most powerful when it’s anchored in the moment. It’s not just about noticing—it’s about naming it now.

Final Thought:Toddlers live in the now. When we meet them in the moment with affirmation, we don’t just reinforce behavior—we build trust, responsiveness, and emotional safety that lasts.